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You're listening to Episode 43 of the fat fuelled female podcast.
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Welcome to the fat fueled female podcast. I'm your host Marja Chow, a holistic nutritionist, personal trainer and proud dog mama of two. I am obsessed with helping women achieve their goals, feel confident in their skin and become empowered health advocates. This podcast is designed to help ambitious women thrive on a low carb, high fat lifestyle. So tune in each week as we talk all aspects of nutrition, improving your fitness, enhancing your mindset, so that you can take inspired action, and live your best life all starting from the inside out. I'm so happy to have you here. Now let's get started.
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Hello, hello, and welcome back to another episode of the fatfuelled female podcast.
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So in today's episode, I'm going to talk about being an optimistic but struggling dieter. I was optimistic but struggling to hide her for years. And I'm gonna go over past mistakes I've made over the years to prevent you from making the same.
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So as I said I was a struggling dieter struggling but optimistic, optimistic but struggling dieter for 10 plus years. And I didn't know it at the time.
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It's like, when we start a diet, we are optimistic we're like this is it, because we as humans, we don't do something unless we think we're going to get some form of benefit, or reward. Right?
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Like, we're not just going to put in effort and time and energy. If we don't think we're gonna get a result or have a positive outcome.
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So when you start a new diet, there's excuse me, there's a lot of excitement. There's a lot of anticipation. There's a lot of motivation. We're like, Yeah, this is it. This is my time.
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This is the diet that I'm gonna lose X amount of weight, I'm finally going to feel confident in my skin, I'm going to be able to fit into that little black dress fit into that jeans size.
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I'm tired of feeling insecure about my body, my time is now I'm ready to lose the weight. Maybe it's dropping that baby weight, you said you're gonna drop 2,3,4 years ago. And I want to feel amazing in my body. I want to feel maybe like you did in your 20s or in your 30s or before you became a mom or before you kept on pushing your health and your nutrition on the backburner. S
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o if you are an optimistic but struggling dieter, you may have experienced one or more of the following. So you follow a nutrition plan for a while, but you can never seem to stick with it.
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A lot of the diets people are prescribing or weight loss coaches are getting clients to follow or getting whoever to follow online. It's all about getting you those fast results, but not sustainable results.
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And depending where you are on Your journey, what your dieting history is, where your metabolic health is, you can find a coach who's just going to be like, Hey, let's just slash the calories. And you may get results from that.
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Or you may not because you and your body and where where you are with your health and your metabolism and your digestion, all of it is going to be really different than anyone else. And a lot of the times when we follow these specific diets or protocols, they don't incorporate the lifestyle component.
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And they're not enjoyable for a lot of people. Like, I've ran into people that used to train at the gym, I worked at a call like this is maybe like 5, 6, 7 years ago. And they were like, on the heavier side. And then I see them a year later.
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And I'm like, Whoa, you lost so much weight, what did you do? Well, I did Weight Watchers, I don't really know anything about Weight Watchers, I just know, it's a point system, okay.
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So they do the Weight Watchers, they lose the weight, then I run into the person another year or two years later, and they've put on more weight.
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They're bigger than how they were before they even started. Okay. So again, it's like, if you're just following something, you may be able to get some results. But are you able to maintain those results?
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So you may have been able to lose weight by dieting, but you haven't been successful at keeping it off longer than one to two years. So it's great, you can get these results, but it's not so great if you can't keep them right.
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So another thing you may be experiencing is you have intense sugar cravings, after lunch or after dinner, like where is the cookies? Where is the candy. And it's because a lot of these diets, they only focus on getting your body to run off one fuel source, aka carbohydrates.
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So when you get your body to only run off one fuel source, you're not taking advantage of how your body is able to run off of two fuel sources.
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So a lot of the times when someone is a sugar burner eating carbohydrates all the time, they can have energy highs and lows because their blood sugar is rising and falling.
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Their brain can feel foggy, they may require they may feel like they require buckets of coffee to make it through the day. You know, as an optimistic but struggling Dieter, you may wear baggy clothes because you feel uncomfortable in your body.
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And you don't want to show parts of your body. So you know you're buying the clothes that are not form fitting, you're buying, you know, the baggy tops, you're buying the baggy, the baggy pants, the baggy outfit, and you may have this phrase or this statement that you're like, Okay, this is the year this is the year that I'm going to lose X amount of weight, this is my time. But the time just keeps on passing by and passing by.
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And you're exactly where you are, if not getting worse, because you're not taking action and making any sort of changes. And when you are struggling, but optimistic Dieter, you may feel burned out like I felt so burned out by continuously dieting or past dieting. And you get to a point where you're like, I don't even know what direction to take anymore with my health and with my nutrition.
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And you may feel depressed with all the failed attempts with trying to lose weight and improve your health. And I've had clients come to me and be like, I've thought this is just the way I'm supposed to look and feel. And my metabolism is quote unquote, broken.
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And it's not broken. It's just you're doing the wrong strategies, and following the wrong methods to get the results you want. And it's a lot of its diet culture that we think we're supposed to lose 10 pounds in 10 days. And weight loss is this linear easy process. And we have to take into into consideration that you are different than anyone else. Your body, your metabolic needs. Your past dieting history is different than anyone else.
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And a lot of these diets are like you get 1200 calories, you get 1200 calories, you get 1200 calories and you get 1200 calories. How does that make sense? Are you 5'2? Are you 5"10? Are you 25? Are you 48? Are you working out two times a day or two times a day? Well, maybe you are actually are you working out two times a day? Are you working out once a week? Right? So like all these variables aren't going to be so specific to you.
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So a lot of the times you just follow someone else's plan. You follow what this coach tells you to do. You follow these calories you follow these meal this meal plan and that's not going to be specific to you and your goals.
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So a lot of that behaviors with being an optimistic but struggling Dieter is like you're really good Like from Monday to Friday, you're like, okay, yeah, I can do this, I'm motivated, I can follow this plan. But then the weekend rolls around, and you haven't incorporated the lifestyle component. So it's like, Oh, your family's going out to celebrate someone's birthday.
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Or it's happier with everyone at work, and you fill on chi, or do full on binges, because you can't commit to how restricted your style of eating is or how low calorie your style of eating is. And then you think your diet has to be perfect, or why even bother.
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So it's like really trying to be perfect all the time. But then who can be perfect? When what is perfectionism? It really is an illusion, right? You try to be perfect, and then it only causes you to fail more. And you think, and I see this a lot, because keto has become so much more mainstream these last five, six years. There are so many keto products that are like keto, two grams of net carbs. And people are bamboozled with oh, well, this keto bread, it's great.
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And it's like, flip it over. It's got gluten in it, like what are you read the ingredient and ingredients and it's got so many ingredients in it.
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And it's like, it'd be better just to eat something that's got more carbs in it that's got less ingredients that is less processed and less refined.
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So it's like, people get like laser focused on this is the only way to do it. And I have to follow this. And that's really not creating a lifestyle, and that's not gonna get you where you want to go.
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So a lot of the mistakes, mistakes optimistic, but struggling dieters make is they under eat you under eat for an extended period of time, three to six months, if not longer.
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And when you do this, you totally mess up your metabolism. And you totally tank your hormones. And what happens is, you start the next diet, and you're already your body's already in a stressful state. And then you just keep on getting stuck on this same cycle, which I refer to as the weight loss circle of frustration.
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So your metabolic needs are going to be very different than anyone elses on this planet. Secondly, again, what's your kind of already touched on? You're only running on that one fuel sources? Why are you only running on one fuel sources when there is a whole nother fuel source you could tap into, it feels so much more connected with your body and have so much more boundless amounts of energy your body could tap into.
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And really not not following someone else's plan, not making something customized for you, your goals, your activity level, your digestion, you know, you again, your superpower is being you. So why not learn? Why not you learn how to design a customized program, nutrition program and health program that's going to work for you not for two weeks or two months, but for the long haul. And that's why I love being a fat fuelled female.
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And I've been a fat fueled female since 2016. And I've been dieting or I was dieting for over a decade, I started my first diet when I was 13. And with everything I did with diet culture, it was you didn't listen to your body, you told your body to eff off, you're like nope, I can only eat this amount of food, my portions, my calories, and you totally turn off all of those signals from your brain to your body and you don't honor it at all.
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So it's not when I work with clients, it's not just okay, the how to of course, we need to take have stepped, we need to have frameworks, we need to have take action to get to the result we want. But it's also about the why why are you doing this? How is this supporting my gut? Oh, how is it supporting my stress hormones? Oh, that makes sense.
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How is this strengthening my digestion? So I'm not shortchanging my nutrition and getting more bang for my buck. Right? So when you understand the why it brings everything together. It's like I always say education brings motivation. You have more skin in the game, you have more conviction, you have more intention. So I've had people reach out can you make me a meal plan? Can you make me a meal plan? I'm like, Yeah, you can go on to my website and download a free meal plan.
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But if a meal plan was all you required to get the results, and I'm not sick food is medicine. Medicine is food. Food is what I teach. But it's one aspect of what I teach because there's a reason why you are starting and stopping and self sabotaging.
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And it's not just about doing more things, okay. It's about actually understanding, you know, your why, the how and the why and getting below you know of an iceberg getting below the surface and understanding your behaviors, your habits, what's going to work for you What's not gonna work for you?
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And no one can, no one can make these decisions and understand this accept yourself. So, you know, as a fat fueled female since 2016, a lot of my past clients, when you become fat fuelled female, you're able to maintain your weight year round.
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You don't have to, you know, diet for swimsuit season, or oh my gosh, it's January 1, I need to figure out what diet I'm going to do. You really have balanced hunger hormones, because you allow your body to run off an alternative fuel source, which really supports to have your hunger hormones and your stress hormones.
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So you're not thinking about food all the time. When I was a optimistic but struggling Dieter, I was thinking about food all the time, because I wasn't eating foods that actually were satiating. It's like oatmeal. How full Are you eating oatmeal? Granola bars, like it's just spiking your blood sugar. It's mostly carbohydrates, they're nutrient void, and they're not going to keep you full, you're gonna have to continuously eat throughout the day, you know, no dips in the afternoon because you're not eating carbs.
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Every meal and snack so your blood sugar is not going up and down like a roller coaster.
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You can skip meals and snacks, you don't feel hungry, because you've tapped into that alternative fuel source, you've tapped into allowing your body to run off of fat for fuel, and not just carbohydrates. So if you're the type of person and you're like, hey, this sounds exactly like me, or aspects of this sound like me, and you're wanting to lose the extra weight that's been hanging around for quite some time.
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Or maybe it's only been six months or maybe it's been six years, who knows, wherever you are in your journey, and you're wanting to improve your energy and not feel tired every day.
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And you're wanting to really understand for you to understand how to design an enjoyable but also effective lifestyle change, then send me a DM on Instagram at Marja Chow let me know where you are at what you need help with the most.
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And basically, I'm going to help you ditch that dieters mindset, burn fat for fuel and get results that actually last. That is my intention with all my clients to get you to be your own health advocate but also to get you those results that actually freakin lasts this time.
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Okay. So you know, Albert Einstein said it best, insanity is doing the same thing over and over and over and over and over again expecting different results.
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And that is what struggling but optimistic dieters do, they just jump from the next thing to the next thing thinking, this is the golden ticket. This is the missing link when you're just doing more of the same thing, right?
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Like many of us have loyalty to ineffectiveness. Ineffective is diet hopping, right.
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So let's stop the insanity. Let's try something new. So send me a DM if any of this spoke to you, and I truly look forward to connecting.
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So thanks so much for pressing play and hanging out with your girl today. And I look forward to catching all of you beautiful humans and souls next week. Have a great rest of your day morning, afternoon and have a productive rest of your week.
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Bye for now. Thank you so much for listening to today's episode. If you enjoyed what you heard, make sure to subscribe to the podcast. And if you feel you got some extra value from this episode, it would mean the world to me. If you could head over to Apple podcasts or whatever service you're listening to this podcast on. Drop a five star review.
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Let me know your thoughts in the show. Doing this really helps more people like yourself by the podcast. And if you're not already following me on social media right now is the time you can find me on Instagram at Marja Chow for all your nutrition tips, tricks and inspiration or visit my website at fatuelledfemale.com where you can download my free seven day keto meal plan with recipes. Thanks so much for tuning in and I will catch you next week.
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