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You're listening to episode number 10 of the Fat Fuelled Female podcast.
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Welcome to the Fat Fuelled Female podcast. I'm your host Marja Chow, a holistic nutritionist, personal trainer and proud dog mama of two. I am obsessed with helping women achieve their goals, feel confident in their skin, and become empowered health advocates.
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This podcast is designed to help ambitious women thrive on a low carb, high fat lifestyle. So tune in each week as we talk all aspects of nutrition, improving your fitness, enhancing your mindset so that you can take inspired action, and live your best life all starting from the inside out.I'm so happy to have you here. Now let's get started.
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Hello, and welcome, welcome, welcome back to the Fat Fuelled Female podcast. And in this episode, I am going to go over an old blog post I found in the summer of 2016.
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And the reason why I want to share this blog post with you guys is first off 2016 is actually when I started my ketogenic journey. So I didn't know it at the time.
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But that was like the stepping stone that is what caused the trajectory for me to do what I do work with women, how I do created the fat fuelled female method and all the things also in 2016.
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That was when I became single, for the first time after 10 years. My partner and I got back together two years later, but I was navigating through the world for the first time in over like over a decade actually, of being a single lady.
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So when I look back and read what I wrote that version of me, there's only like particles of that version of me, which is so cool to look back at. When you put pen to paper and if you diar,y if you had a diary when you were a kid.
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Like I diary all the time, like found my diary at my parents. I was like, Oh my gosh, these are just so funny, right? But when you write stuff down, as you get older, and you look back at it, I find it's like a mini archive of your thoughts. So I'm a really big advocate of journaling.
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And after I read this blog post, I'm gonna explain why I wanted to share it and a bunch of other stuff. Okay, so I'm just going to read it word for word, what I wrote down and it was inspired by R.M Drake, Robert M. Drake.
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When I was single, I really read a lot of quotes that like lifted me up and empowered me and his book, beautiful and damned. It resonated with me so much as a single female for the first time. So anyways, I'm just gonna read word for word what I wrote, okay, here we go.
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So, the book beautiful and damned by Robert M. Drake has inspired me. His writing makes me smile from cheek to cheek, reminding me how storytelling allows us to get lost. Using our imaginations to create these moments, however we interpret them. I am not the best writer. I don't write poems like my sister.
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However, writing gives me a release. It allows me to disconnect from the world and be honest with myself, going through a transitional period of my life, journaling, reading, and looking up quotes provides a sense of warmth, and comfort to my soul. Below isn't a poem or a story. It is just my words on paper this evening. When you feel lost, take a pen to paper and write down what comes to your mind...trust me, it will help.
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My name is Marja.
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I have many flaws and imperfections.
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I am hard on myself and I don't take criticism well.
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I get insecure and have unrealistic expectations of beauty from social media.
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I need to remind myself pictures are not real life and don't show the depth of a human.
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I'm a goal setter and make impulse decisions which can hurt me or have me excel.
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I eat too much chocolate when I'm sad.
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I drink too much wine when I am happy or healing,vodka as well.
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I lift weights to feel empowered and strong.
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I run declare my head and keep me sane.
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I do yoga to actually breathe and sometimes shed some tears. I
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laugh to heal the pain and act like a 10 year old to feel alive.
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I think the stupidest shit is funny.
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I am immature at heart and will always be a young soul.
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I love easily and tend to forgive easily depending on the circumstance
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It requires too much energy to hate someone that you only drain yourself.
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My energy is light but powerful, and I try my best to have my heart open.
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I try to see the good in everyone, no matter how dark the circumstances may be.
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I love animals, especially dogs as they have no judgment and are loyal to the bone.
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I believe in love at first sight. And I believe in soulmates, you could have many in one life.
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I believe good things can fall apart for worse things to happen.
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I believe you are the creator of your story and the director of your life.
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I don't believe in luck. I believe in hard work and determination.
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I believe mindset is everything.
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I believe we all experience pain and loss differently. How we overcome these obstacles is a true testament to the person you are or growing into.
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I believe energy is everything.
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When you meet someone instantaneously, you can see if you're compatible as a friend, or a lover.
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I believe you have to love yourself first, in order to love someone else.
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I believe as cliche as it may sound, that everything happens for a reason.
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I believe there are no coincidences in life.
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What's meant to be will always find its way.
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I believe the universe has my back.
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So that is what I wrote on a summer, Sunday or not Sunday, a summer's evening, back in 2016.
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And writing really allowed myself to feel all my feelings and actually be vulnerable with myself, getting all those thoughts in my mind and putting them onto paper.
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So you have your conscious mind, which is 5%. And you have your subconscious mind which is 95%.
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And in your subconscious mind or unconscious mind, you can use the words interchangeably, you have over 60,000 thoughts a day.
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And a lot of the thoughts or beliefs or stories we hold on to and carry with ourselves.
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We could be holding on to ideas or beliefs from childhood, right, or any sort of negative belief that someone told you that kind of just got stuck in your brain and programmed and you don't even question it.
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So when you journal and go pen to paper, old school, you actually are able to pull those thoughts out, get them out of your head, get them out of your head, and get them onto paper so you can have the awareness and reflect what is coming up.
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So I love journaling. And sometimes people have resistance to doing it.
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I find a really great exercise I do with my clients. And if you say "Hey, can you commit to two to three minutes a day?"
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Someone's like, yeah, I can commit to two to three minutes. Like who can't commit to two to three minutes, he both spend like two to three hours if not more binging on something new on Netflix, right.
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So if you can commit to two to three minutes a day, this is a beautiful exercise. To just start with journaling, all you do is is called a brain dump in the morning.
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You can do it the night at you could do in the evening as well. But I usually get people to do in the morning. In the morning, you just take a pen, you grab some paper and you just write what ever comes to your mind.
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And after you write a, you light it on fire and throw it in the toilet, or you rip it up. I like I like lighting on fire for me personally, where you can just tear it up.
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Okay, so it allows you to get all of your thoughts, ideas that are just floating around in your mind out on paper.
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So that is a great exercise you could start with or, you know, journaling, just writing like this wasn't one night I was just like, I was inspired by his book, I was thinking about what I was feeling all my emotions, how I felt navigating through this world being single having a different identity because of my partner who I was lived with and did everything with.
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He wasn't in my life. So that is how I wrote this. And I'm so happy I did because I don't know it's really powerful. And I read this I'm like, oh, that version of me.
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So different now but so happy that I have this right? So when you journal it's like a little archive of your emotions and your thoughts and your feelings and even the brain dump.
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It's like a lot of negative or limiting beliefs we have we're not even aware of them. They're like invisible to us.
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So if you just write them down on paper at whether they're more happy thoughts or maybe they're more limiting whatever it is just get into the motion of observing what your thoughts actually are, and reflecting on what they are right.
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So that's everything. For this episode, I just wanted to share that little sliver in time that I wrote back in 2016. And how journaling is such a great time, just being in silence with yourself, sitting in the silence with yourself.
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Not having technology not being on text messaging, not being scrolling on Instagram, or Tiktok.
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Just sitting with yourself and sitting with your thoughts can be really scary for some people, but writing them down, releasing them and examining your beliefs, because it is our internal wiring is our internal programming.
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It is the stories we tell ourselves that reflect into reality into the 3D world. So the first step, if you want change to happen, it all starts from within, and you examining how you talk to yourself.
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The thoughts you think what you say about yourself, a lot of the times we don't even realize how mean we're being to ourself, right?
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A lot of negative self talk can pop up to the surface. If you've never done this before, and how I like to kind of combat that is the thoughts we say to ourselves, would you ever say those thoughts to your best friend, or your mom, or someone you really cared about?
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Hell, no, people probably wouldn't want to be your friend if you talk like that to them, right?
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So why do we have such a negative dialogue with ourselves? And the first thing again, is having the awareness and examining your own belief system.
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That is everything for this episode. I will catch you all next week. Bye.
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